I have a question...

Monday night I left a girls dinner on cloud nine. We had gathered in anticipation of going to the

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party Emily was hosting and ended up closing the restaurant down, getting an ice cream nightcap and heading home. By the time I settled in bed, it was just past midnight. This was a big deal for me, especially on a Monday, given how much I cherish my sleep. To fit my morning to-dos in before work, I typically wake up by 6:15AM and the idea of getting less than seven hours of sleep makes me anxious. But I could’ve cared less on this Monday! I had been up for 18+ hours and got home from dinner feeling like I could seize the day all over again.

There is something truly special about girl time. I’ve written a couple of times about how important my girlfriends are to me. My friend Karina and I laugh because we say we are actually in love with our girlfriends. When you find the right girlies, you feel genuinely fulfilled and enriched. I actually don’t know how to put into words the high I get from a good girls gathering.

“I want to do a tea tour in Japan!” N exclaimed during our ice cream nightcap on Monday. G and I were immediately onboard. G has just started seeing a boy and I exclaimed he should join us! I wanted to be inclusive on our fantasy trip. “No, no no,” they both said. We launched into talking about the idea of finding our partners, getting married, having kids, etc. and how important it is to preserve your sense of self.

We ended the night exchanging texts as we each got ready for bed prompted by my question:

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Anyways, back to me.

I want to preface this rant with the fact that I did truly love all of my boyfriends at one point. We’d go on dates and trips, some more memorable than others, where I know we really connected. There was stimulated conversation, but I’m not sure I felt the passion or enrichment I’ve ever really felt with my girlfriends. At least not on a long-sustaining level.